Remember that song from the 80’s?
It keeps running through my head everytime Mayor Bee goes through one of his fixation phases.
Like most kids on the spectrum, Bee has a fixation characteristic. Once he becomes fixated on something…everything else disappears. It’s “all this, all the time” and Lordy if you get in the way or suggest something different.
Recently, we went to his friend “R’s” house for a playdate. R has a REAL (though small) drum set. B fell in love with said drum set. He wouldn’t stop talking about the drum set. He wanted to go back to R’s house.
We did go back (hopefully to appease his fixation) to R’s house for a play date. However, now it’s no longer the drum set that he loves. It’s now a blue acoustic guitar that now B loves. He played with it nonstop at R’s house. He was devastated when I told him he couldn’t take it home with him, but maybe another time he can play with it.
And so now he’ll ask for that damn acoustic blue guitar. At breakfast. After nap. Before dinner. During the bedtime routine.
And it drives me absolutely bonkers. No matter how much I say, “not right now” or make excuses, the little bugger (B that is) is persistent. If anyone has any tips on managing this please share them with me. 🙂
His fixations also come in waves. For example, he suddenly became a Phineas and Ferb fan. We’ve never talked to him about it, so he must have picked it up in school. We had never watched an episode until a couple of weeks ago. Now, he asks for it specifically and even requests “certain” episodes. He’ll recite lines and even imitate Doofenshirmtz’ “Oh, come on!” line.
Thank goodness for a DVR and Video on Demand.
I have learned to ride out his fixation phases but always have to be prepared for them to come back.
Case in point: a few days ago, in a pinch to divert his attention, I put in a Laurie Berkner DVD he hadn’t watched for a while. And now…he requests to watch his “Laurie Berkner” so that he can play in a band.
I guess fixation could be a good thing. For example, he has remarkable memory of songs. He’s getting better at communicating since he constantly talks about whatever he’s into – a sign of intelligence, yes? We try to work with it – whether it’s music or trains or whatever he becomes fascinated with.
I just hope I have enough storage space for his interests.