Technology can be a wonderful thing. It can also make things difficult.
Case in point: the advances made in the realm of public restrooms. We know the intent of the automatic toilet is to not have to touch the icky lever. For germaphobes and the lazy, it’s a great thing.
In our case, though, automatic toilets are the bane of our existence. The uncertainty of “when” it will flush. The loud, sudden noise and “swoosh” of the water flushing (because, normally, they flush with more force).
It can be mildly annoying to a normal person – but to B, it’s a sensory overload like no other. It’s a deafening noise that my poor son can’t prepare for, no matter how much he tries.
I even try to “outsmart” the toilet. I have tried Post-It Notes and draped toilet paper over the sensor. B is on to that scheme though. He can immediately point out which ones are automatic toilets -because they don’t have a lever.
B, for his part, does try to work around the automatic toilet issue. He will put his hands on his ears. However, he will put his hands on his ears BEFORE pulling down his pants. It makes it kind of difficult to do your business, if you know what I mean.
I’ve essentially failed (for the time being) to convince him to pull down his pants, put his hands on his ears, do his thing, then pull the pants back up. He needs us to pull down his pants, because he can’t trust the toilet not to “go off”. And if we don’t – well, a major meltdown ensues.
I have tried to explain the automatic toilet issue to B, and each time it’s been disastrous.
Without getting into too many details, this pretty much sums it up:
1. Back away from the toilet,
2. Start shaking his head,
3. Begin saying “No” repeatedly,
4. Commence screaming hysterically,
5. Mommy tries to keep explain the toilet in a calm manner, but then loses hope (and patience).
6. Mommy feels bad because of the meltdown she “caused”.
Honestly, it’s exasperating and frustrating. The toilets are everywhere – at his school, at his library, the local mall. It can make or break our outing if we are not prepared for the “automatic toilet acoustic breakdown”. I’m powerless in stopping the fear that the damn toilet brings out in B.
I really hope we can work through this. But I imagine that it will be a long road. Anyone who has had success with their child please let me know what you have done. I implore you! 🙂
And those “cool” automatic hand dryers? Do NOT get me started on those!