The Honeymoon Is Over.

Now that the shutdown is over, time to return back to our typical autism/ADHD/SPD struggles.

Hence the post title. I have been waiting for this day. You all know it – when the other shoe drops and now you are bracing yourself for the potential bad day. Or days. Maybe weeks.

At school, he is relatively fine. I hear lots of good things. Every day, he colors a chart with the color that signifies his behavior that day. We get to see it in his folder each night. Most times, it’s green (typical)…sometimes blue (better than typical). Never in a “warning” color.

Then he gets to the After-Kindergarten program…and well, it can get bumpy. I don’t know what happened but now he is having trouble transitioning into that classroom. Sometimes it’s fine. A few times – awesome.  After-K has their own chart – with numbered clothespins to identify the child. Most times he is on yellow or orange (below typical). 

For example, on Friday he colored his “square” pink at school – meaning he was a SUPER STUDENT. Which is fabulous. Husband picks him up from daycare that same day – he’s on red. His stimming was off the hook, with lots of backtalking and defiance mixed in.

Yesterday he seemed fine at school but at After-K there was a three hour time period where he threw fits, screamed, had to be separated from other kids, attempted to scratch a teacher, and tried to throw a chair.  It continued after he went home until pretty much bedtime. Throw in some periods of wailing, crying and “crocodile tears” and it was a rough evening.


So, obviously there is something at daycare that is throwing him off. And I’m pretty sure it’s a noise issue. I think that for the size of that room, the acoustics are crap. Which means, not only is it loud (there are 25 kids in the class) – but everything is amplified because the sound bounces off the walls. Which means B bounces off the walls, maybe even literally.

To the daycare’s benefit, they have been fabulous. So far, they have not sounded an alarm. In fact they are listening and trying out things that might work for him. They put out a sensory rice station for him to keep his hands occupied at certain times. They will advise him if he wants some quiet time. And his teacher easily read our faces when we see if he has a good day or a bad one.

Regardless, we are a bit concerned, to say the least. Is there anything else going we don’t know about at daycare? I know at school he has more resources on tap, but the swing of behavioral changes is baffling. So, I have e-mails out to his Resource Teacher and his developmental pediatrician. I am considering keeping a pair of headphones in his class as his tool.

B definitely gets the concept of behavioral charts. :)

B definitely gets the concept of behavioral charts. 🙂

So, yeah, the honeymoon is over.


About OneLoCoMommy

I live in Northern Virginia and and I look like the stereotypical suburban mom, for better or for worse. My son plays baseball and takes karate (albeit adaptive). My daughter is a gymnastics diva but rolls with the boys in T-ball. I've been a Room Mom and Playdate Coordinator. I work full-time, try to work out, and love my Book Club. However, I also blog on my experiences on our ASD, SPD and ADHD journey while trying to be a better parent advocate. All in a life's work.
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4 Responses to The Honeymoon Is Over.

  1. So sorry to hear about the struggles. I don’t know what we would have done if my Little Man had had to go to a program after school when he was in kindergarten. For my kiddo, being able to blow off steam and just do whatever his body needed, without having to keep his behavior reined in, would have been too much. For sure get headphones and make sure the people at daycare suggest to him to use them if he’s struggling in any way.


    • OneLoCoMommy says:

      Thanks…I know the transition is hard. This is the downfall of a half-day K when both parents work. It’s just not feasible unfortunately. Next year, we hope to get him back into the afterschool program he was in last year.

      And I know he lets loose when he gets home as well.


  2. Oops. Not awake yet. I meant that if my guy had had to keep it together after school, he would not have seen able to do it without a lot of different sensory input that he got at home. We had a mini tramp. He didn’t have other kids around to have to share or take turns with. He could dismantle the sofa cushions and pile up blankets and snuggle in. You catch my drift.


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