The Great Divide – And Comparing It To A Musical.

The fallout from Ms. Wright’s op-ed has continued to manifest itself.

To compare one persons’ journey to another is not fair.  I still feel that her statement lumped everyone into this big ole pile is ill-advised.

In one part of my brain, I “understand” why the statement is laid out this way – for donations, of course.  I totally get it – I have worked the fundraising angle, I know that money makes the world go round.  They are the loudest voice, beats the biggest drum. And creating a world of despair and drama gets the message out faster.

I have seen many supporters as well for Ms. Wright’s comments. That’s fine! We live in a democratic society and can choose to agree or disagree.

What bothers me though is sometimes comments and opinions can go too far. When I read that others have it “worse” or that higher functioning autistics don’t understand what it’s like, that worries me.

From a few hundred words, Ms. Wright’s statement created a divide between “camps”. The LFAs vs. HFAs. The Parent vs The Autistic Adult.

Seriously, I feel like the Sharks vs. the Jets out here people. Though without the cool choreography and the kickass soundtrack.

Listen, we all migrate and bond with those of us with similar struggles and challenges. People tend to relate to others going through same things they are – whether it is socialization issues or cleaning up bodily fluids.

But we as a community overall cannot tear each other apart. That’s why upon further reflection I feel that her statement did just that. Lines have been drawn in the sandbox.

And that’s what makes me so sad about it. Because instead of looking at moving forward, we are trading blog posts and articles. We need to help each other, not try to shout down everyone else.

We all need to be heard. Separately and together.


About OneLoCoMommy

I live in Northern Virginia and and I look like the stereotypical suburban mom, for better or for worse. My son plays baseball and takes karate (albeit adaptive). My daughter is a gymnastics diva but rolls with the boys in T-ball. I've been a Room Mom and Playdate Coordinator. I work full-time, try to work out, and love my Book Club. However, I also blog on my experiences on our ASD, SPD and ADHD journey while trying to be a better parent advocate. All in a life's work.
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2 Responses to The Great Divide – And Comparing It To A Musical.

  1. Lisa says:

    Well said! This is one very fractured community…and we shouldn’t be. It is unfortunate that her attempt at a rally cry turned out to be such a divisive piece. We need community and support.


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