Dear Autism “Community”: Do You HEAR Yourselves?

OneLoCoMommy:

Love this post regarding Jerry Seinfeld’s recent conversation with Brian Williams.

Originally posted on StimCity:

seinfeldThese are REAL comments on Autism Daddy’s facebook page concerning Jerry Seinfeld’s recent disclosure that he might be on the autism spectrum:

Melissa P: “As the mother of a very high functioning Aspie, I was very offended by Jerry Seinfeld’s self diagnosis. I saw his stand up once and saw beneath the veneer of his comedy an arrogant, elitist prick. His “social awkwardness” comes from his elitist viewpoint atop his magic money empire which prevents him from connecting with an “average” person. It doesn’t make him an Aspie, it makes him an a-hole.”

Karen D: “…gee what I wouldn’t give to have my essentially non-verbal son have a hit tv show for over a decade, make millions, talk casually on Letterman and Leno, do stand up. It’s like night and day, cookies and carrots, hard and easy…yeah they have things in common but they are so far from…

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Update: Bullied Autistic Teen Gets Surprise!

In follow-up to my previous bullying post, a nice thing happened. Thank you Pittsburgh Riverhounds and MLS for the wonderful gesture!

http://www.wpxi.com/videos/news/student-with-autism-duct-taped-to-goal-post-gets/vCxdb6/

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Why I Will Always Worry About High School.

I’m high strung by nature,  but there is a reason why I will never stop worrying.

You want your child to succeed.  Maybe they want to play a sport, maybe have friends,  date,  etc.

Then you read a bullying article and you want to crawl into a safety bubble.

In this case,  a high school student was duct taped to a goal post.  This was done by fellow team members of his soccer team. He was left by himself until an off duty officer find him.

The boy is autistic.  While I can’t speak for him,  I can relate to what his mother said – “he was terrified, he could have died,  he could have had a heart attack from being so stressed out, he was screaming at the top of his lungs.”

Sounds like big fun,  that ritual.

I have read tweets from a former student and others that defend it.defend their actions or those that bullied,  saying that “that’s the way it’s always been” or “I got through it they should too.”

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Newsflash Einstein – people may not function like you. Just because you did doesn’t mean someone else should too. If I may show my age as a mom, “if everyone jumped off the Brooklyn Bridge, would you do that too?”

In the case of an autistic child, reading social cues is a major challenge.  It’s exhausting and simply frustrating to have to keep sifting through typical socialness.

So yeah someone may not understand the full impact of your “ritual”. Quite honestly I’m not sure how taping anyone to a pair accomplishes athletic skills.

The icing on the cake is that there are comments made that the boy is a “snitch”. Or the written attacks on Facebook. Or the fact that students actually made signs for a recent game that supports the alleged bullies. Just guessing but he is probably getting dirty looks in the hallway or verbal insults in the cafeteria.

Seriously.  Think about who is supporting who in this incident.

By the way,  they may be “kids” but at 17 I knew the difference between right and wrong. This is not a playground dust up over swings.

And it’s not just the kids.  Where are the adults?  I presume that there parental units involved with upbringing.  Who teaches kids?  Adults. Again,  the excuse “well I got through it” is trite and full of doo-doo. You knew it sucked then,  why are you letting it happen again?

And where is the coach? The methodological steps of this “ritual” means is most likely happened before.  Whether the coach explicitly turned the other way is another story. If he knew about and said nothing then he is involved too.

Bullying is bullying. Hazing is wrong. Doesn’t matter the reason. Doesn’t matter who. Stop, listen and say something.

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Jaws Mouth.

Sometimes, it takes a little extra effort to get those toothies moving.

Hence why I was at B’s special needs dentist today, a mere month and a half after his cleaning.

See, his front two bottom teeth seemed to be a little loose back then. Well, now they are still loose, but not out, and his other teeth are now coming in full force. So the kid had two extra teeth in his mouth.

Yep, there are a couple extra teeth here.

Yep, there are a couple extra teeth here.

It’s called “shark teeth” and while disturbing to see, apparently not at all dangerous. However, the dentist thought it was best to “move the teeth along”.

I love the staff at his dentist (and no, this is not a paid post, lol). They are compassionate and know his needs. At each visit, they clearly explain in easy terms what they will do. Today was no exception. We talked about putting “sleepy jelly” on his gums. We also talked on how important it was not to talk too much after putting the gel on so that it does its job. We learned about a “tooth counter” to tap and make sure it didn’t hurt. The assistant showed him the “tooth hugger” that will gently hold the tooth to pull it out.

Putting "sleepy jelly" on his gums to numb the area.

Putting “sleepy jelly” on his gums to numb the area.

Dentist tapping the area before using the "tooth hugger" get those buggers out.

Dentist tapping the area before using the “tooth hugger” get those buggers out.

So while that all sounded great, the fact that they were there to hold his hand during the actually pulling part (which yeah he yelped big time) still sucked. But, the pain didn’t last long, he got his teeth to give to the Tooth Fairy, and I rewarded his great attitude with a trip to SweetFrog. The dentist even promised to text the Tooth Fairy to make sure she got to him tonight. How much is the going rate nowadays?

Finally lost my teeth, Mom!

Finally lost my teeth, Mom!

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